Tuesday, January 16, 2007

My Hubby's Help Meet

I have been thinking about this subject for a long time. What is that subject? Well, being my hubby's help meet of course. I sometimes wonder if I am his help meet or more of a hindrance to him. I sometimes let the "old nature" take over...which I have noticed a lot lately. I have used the excuse, "he needs to tell me..." a lot lately. I am lazy. I admit it. I say that I wish hubby would just tell me what he wants me to do while he is gone, but the truth is....that makes me just like a child that needs his or her chore listed written out for them everyday. By being his help meet I should be able to "read" what my husband would like to see done and do it. Now...that doesn't mean that if he comes home and things aren't done to his "liking" that he will "punish" me. (I know some people where probably thinking that. ;)

So...I started reading "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debbie Pearl. I have actually had this book for 1 1/2 years (someone gave me a copy) and I have finally made myself take time to sit down and read it. I have heard so many good things about it. So you will probably be reading about my "insights" as I go through this book....so bear with me. Anyway, I have had to come the the realization that my Hubby is not "Mr. Right" nor am I "Ms. Right." We are both sinful people and we are not perfect. Not by a long shot! My marriage is only as good as I make it and it takes hard work every moment of my life.

I also need to fully come to the realization that a job done poorly by my husband is better than it being done well by me. I am not saying this in relation to everything. This just means that I should not "take over" what we have established as His duties versus My duties. If we agreed...lets say...that he was to take out the trash everyday (example) and he only does it every other day....That's fine. It's better than if I would "step" on his toes because I want it done MY way.

I was created to be a helper for my husband. I was created to help him be a better man. I was created to help him to do his job better. (Not that I was created to do his job.) So anyway....I just wanted to quickly share some things I was thinking about today.


Marci said...

That is a great book. I HIGHLY recommend it.

Anonymous said...

Hello, Darling,

Yes, I echo Marci, Darling. The hardest part about all the information that we receive is applying it to our lives. I have come to realize that I have all the information that I need, I just need to do it now. So, I will pray for you that you JUST DO IT! :-D

In Christ,

Mrs. M.

kansas crochet mom said...

I love this book! It changed the whole way I view my marriage and my husband. :)