I find it so funny that I am able to write a review for Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. Beloved and I were going to read this book, along with a couple that are friends of ours, for a study. We ended up meeting one time and our schedules got so crazy it never was continued. Anyway, when I was offered a chance to review this book I figured it would be a great opportunity to finally finish reading it. I am glad I did!
A Marriage Book with a Difference!
A Revolutionary Message
"I've been married 35 years and have not heard this taught." "This is the key that I have been missing." "A lightbulb moment." "You connected all the dots for me." "As a counselor, I have never been so excited about any material." "You're on to something huge here."
A Simple Message
A wife has one driving need -- to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need -- to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy.
When either of these needs isn't met, things get crazy. "Love and Respect" reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
A Message That Works
Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the "Love and Respect" message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other.
What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some "Love and Respect."
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs talks about the "Crazy Cycle" in marriages. Most people that know us would agree that our house is crazy. LOL But that's not the crazy cycle he talks about. The gist of the crazy cycle is without love the wife reacts and without respect the husband reacts. And this cycle just keeps going and going until someone decides to stop the cycle. I had never thought of it this way, but it makes perfect sense. If I don't feel loved by my hubby then there are times where I don't act out of respect to him. He sees no respect and he may react without love towards me. And so on and so forth. He talks about how to notice when the cycle is happening and how to prevent it from getting out of control. How to prevent it all together.
As with any book you need to be discerning. Don't take what someone says as 100% truth just because they say so. (Not that I found anything to disagree with) I just wanted to remind people of that point. Dr Eggerichs understands how communication between a husband and a wife can be complicated. I think anyone would agree. There are always jokes about men not understanding women. But the whole thing pretty much boils down to unconditional respect for him and unconditional love for her.
This is another book that I would recommend. Learn to stop the crazy cycle and initiate the Energizing Cycle so the Rewarded Cycle can be enjoyed.
*Disclaimer- I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their Booksneeze bloggers program . I was not required to write a positive review, but to give my honest opinion.